Information About DNMS
"DNMS has been a most valuable tool! Clients have walked into my office with symptoms of chronic pain, fatigue, fibromyalgia, dissatisfaction with themselves, their jobs and their relationships. After just a few months using the DNMS protocols, they are energized – feeling connected in the moment. If there could ever be a therapy that allows someone to 'have a happy childhood today' - it is DNMS."JESSICA BOLLINGER, LCSW - Lexington, Kentucky
"At last - a way to help clients actually and literally heal from early childhood wounds. DNMS has transformed my practice. My clients are experiencing profound and lasting change at levels deeper than I would have believed possible."LYNN FOERSTER, PhD, - Westlake Village, California
Ego State Therapy
Ego state therapies have been around for many decades. Psychosynthesis, Gestalt Therapy, Transactional Analysis and Inner Child Psychotherapy are types of Ego State therapy. These methodologies share the approach that different personality parts, sub-personalities or ego states can have different views of reality.
For example, healthy ego states live in the present, feel and manage the full range of emotions, hold positive beliefs about self and the world, engage in appropriate/desirable behaviors and have an adaptive point of view.
In contrast, wounded ego states live in the past, are stuck in painful emotions, hold negative beliefs about self and the world, engage in unwanted or inappropriate behaviors and have a maladaptive point of view.
Ego state therapies aim to help individual wounded ego states heal and work to increase communication and cooperation between wounded and healthy ego states. This type of therapy helps resolve old traumas, quiet internal conflicts and build self-esteem.
What Is DNMS?
Have you ever felt like a secure, confident adult one moment, then after something triggering happens, suddenly felt like a sad, angry, or fearful child? When we’re significantly wounded in childhood, child parts of self get stuck in time. From then on, those wounded child parts feel hurt, powerless, alone, and lost. They hold negative, untrue beliefs about self and world.
Reminders of a painful past can trigger a flood of overwhelming emotions, evoking a felt sense that the past is still happening now. Some child parts manage those painful emotions with troubling behaviors – like overeating, starving, withdrawing, gambling, or drinking.
There are 2 kinds of childhood wounds – trauma wounds and attachment wounds. Trauma wounds form when safety needs are not met well. This occurs when bad things happen – like a tornado, hurricane, or school shooting. Attachment wounds form when emotional needs are not met well. This occurs when important good things do not happen – like when parents fail to make a loving connection, soothe painful emotions, or attune. When parents are physically abusive or threatening, they inflict both trauma and attachment wounds.
What if there was a therapy that could heal wounded child parts stuck in old trauma and attachment wounds by helping them get their unmet emotional and safety needs met now? What if this therapy could help child parts come to feel emotionally secure, valuable, lovable, and safe? Would that interest you?
The DNMS is a gentle, multidimensional, comprehensive, strengths-based, client-centered, ego-state therapy developed by Shirley Jean Schmidt, MA, LPC. It helps heal childhood trauma and attachment wounds by meeting the needs of wounded child parts to help them get unstuck from the past.
The DNMS starts with mobilizing a team of loving internal Resources. The Resources join the therapist in providing all the emotional support, compassion, empathy, and radical acceptance wounded parts needed in childhood but didn’t get. They’re gently given all the information they need to come out of the past and into the safety of the present moment.
As more and more wounded parts heal, unwanted behaviors, beliefs, emotions, and urges diminish. Internal conflicts fade out and self-esteem grows. All this makes it easier to handle the stresses of life with adult skills and strengths. To learn more, click on the video link below.
Signs to Look for -That DNMS Therapy May Be of Benefit
- Felt an irrational fear of abandonment
- Experience relentless internal conflicts
- Felt stuck in the past – especially stuck in childhood
- Heard a parent’s ‘wounding message’ over and over in your head
- Felt as though a traumatic event from the past is still happening now
- Reacted to a stressful event as though you were a fearful, helpless or angry child
- Suspected your unhappy childhood is connect to your adulthood problems
- Noticed that what you think (“I’m worthwhile) doesn’t match what you feel (I’m worthless)
What Does DNMS Treat?
- Elimination of chronic depressive disorders
- Lessening or complete elimination of OCD behaviors
- Reduction or elimination of anxiety including panic attacks and phobias
- Complicated grief
- Eating disorders
- Desensitizing emotional triggers that lead to relapse in addictions
- Dissociative disorders
- Relationship problems
- Complex trauma wounds, such as those inflicted by verbal, physical, and sexual abuse
- Attachment wounds, such as those inflicted by parental rejection, neglect and enmeshment
- Those struggling with never having felt understood
- Those who need affirmation
- Those who cannot turn off the inner "tapes" of hostile caretakers
- Those who are codependent
Video Introduction to DNMS